So you cheated on your partner, now what? You can't change it or take it back. Do you tell your partner or not? Was it a mistake? Should you leave or stay? These are the questions I get asked by people that have cheated on their partners. From both men and women (did you know the statistics tell us that almost the same amount of women cheat as men?). For [...]
Breaking up is hard, but sometimes the relationship you were in just wasn’t working out for you. It’s not healthy being in a relationship that’s strained, emotionally hurtful or abusive, so if it’s time to get out of there, it can be a scary time. There is no one type of breakup, but there is one thing that every breakup has in common: it hurts. A lot. Here’s a few [...]
The signs to look for: You might be dealing now or have previously dealt with a Narcissist. These are those partners who need to control you, to ensure you are there for them, when they want, how they want and they really ensure you do, think and behave the way they expect. If you either have a partner now or in the past and are confused as to the reason [...]
Being a working mum can be really tough. We work within our home relentlessly, then we go to work and undertake our job or employment role, we spend so much of our time caring for our children, then we remain a loving, caring mum and wife or partner. An article I recently wrote for Rescu.com A woman wears so many hats and performs so many roles. Most of us love [...]
Is it normal to want to go back? If we have made the decision to leave that awful relationship, it can become extremely frustrating when as the weeks go by we find ourselves questioning our decision. We may wonder if we should have left that relationship, did I bail too soon, should we have tried harder and should I go back and retry, perhaps again. The thoughts of reconciliation are completely normal after you [...]
When you’re dealing with the aftermath of a breakup, everyone will have an opinion on how best get over it. Your parents will remind you there are “other fish in the sea”, your friends will encourage you to get over your ex by getting yourself a diversion for the night, taking you out and getting you too drunk to remember him. While your friends and family mean well their actions and [...]
Are we pre-destined not to get along with our Mother In Laws? While most mother-in-laws are brilliant and get along with their child’s chosen partner really well, there are some that do seem to create issues between themselves and daughter-in-laws. I see many problems come into the Counselling room generated between the mother-n-law and the sons wife. Many of the issues could have been either dissolved or negated if they [...]
When we are about to get married or have recently married, I ask “What Marriage Expectations do you have for your relationship?’ Most of the time I get blank stares, even asked from some couples, ‘are we supposed to have one?’ Fact is, Yes, you should. Why should you? To know what it is you want and expect and to then work towards achieving it. If we have no real expectation, [...]
