Once you and your partner have made that decision to separate there are a few first priorities you need to do. These often involves your money and finances. The finances are what takes the largest hit and causes the biggest threat and escalates conflict. If you can make an effort to discuss this issue logically to avoid the emotional amplification you are both better off. Arranging Finances after separation is [...]
So what exactly is a panic attack? A panic attack is a physiological response to a perceived threat. In other words, it is the body’s own mechanism to protect itself. In some respects we haven’t really advanced much as a species since the time of the caveman. If you met a threatening animal in the forest, your whole body would prepare you for the ‘flight or fight’ mechanism, this is what we now [...]
I was asked to write about how parents can stop their child interrupting them. I consulted on this for Essential Child. It is often a daily occurrence that can drive parents crazy. Please have a read and follow the easy steps to get the outcome you want, and have your child wait… While being interrupted is a part of life when your children are little, there comes a time when they can [...]
I have done a few interviews this past week regarding Grandparents babysitting their grandchildren and the strain it can place upon them. I have attached an article below from Seniors Magazine reflecting this. Yes there are times parents need the Grandparents to assist them out with childcare however when did the responsibility leave the parent to care for their own children. When we decide to become a parent we must [...]
Phone 'phubbing' is a new word to describe snubbing your partner by using your phone while ignoring them. Do you phone phubb your partner? When we ‘phubb’ someone, we are saying ‘You are not as important as what is going on on my phone’ and placing that person second to an inanimate object. It takes away the time we should be spending with our partner discussing their and your day and spending [...]
Should you continue to ‘work’ on it? Marriage or a committed relationship should not be hard; it should be easy, loving and happy. Sure you hear all about needing to ‘work’ at the relationship but what does this mean exactly. I actually dislike the term ‘work’ on the relationship or ‘relationships take work’ and we hear this often. I believe those that say this have either not had a happy, [...]
When you’re dealing with the aftermath of a breakup, everyone will have an opinion on how best get over it. Your parents will remind you there are ‘other fish in the sea’, your friends will encourage you to get over your ex by getting yourself a diversion for the night, taking you out and getting you too drunk to remember him. While your friends and family mean well their actions [...]
We have a new generation of adult children remaining in the family home. We ask – why won't my adult child leave home? There are a few reasons this could be occurring and reasons parents need to consider if they want their older children to move out and become independent. Parents can consider the reasons why their adult child may remain at home: I do everything for my child so [...]
We have a sad literacy rate and many children struggle to learn. This is not the teachers’ fault but can be attributed to either the lack of educational pursuits from their parents or the way the child actually learns. I know many schoolteachers, as I am sure most of us do. Yes they do an amazing job and have to tolerate belligerent parents and defiant children almost every day yet [...]
Raising a teen can certainly be challenging at times. Why is it they suddenly seem moody, hysterical, throw dreadful tantrums, start being sneaky around us and exclude us from their lives? Is this the beautiful child I raised and what happened? How can I speak with or treat my teen so they stay calm, focused and friendly? How can I spend time with them so they don’t feel I am [...]
Beware - December is the Breakup Month Research tells us that the end of the year is the most common time couples separate. The reason this occurs is we may have tolerated our partner, their behaviour, family or friends and once the end of the year is upon us we reassess what the year has been like and often make a conscious decision to start the new year fresh. [...]
Ensuring we set a solid foundation for our marriage is vital. Many couples fail to discuss the many topics that will present as your life progresses. The worst thing to happen is to approach these things blind. When we don’t really know what our partner thinks or how they will respond, can often cause a situation that should be small to erupt into a major disaster. How can we prevent [...]
