Parents should stop smacking children and learn better ways to deal with behaviours. There is always much debate how we can work at stop smacking children. While I never believe that smacking a child teaches them better behaviour I question the reason so many parents continue to do this to their beautiful little child. Children are only learning how to be a person in this life and this is created by guidance and [...]
Is staying in touch with your ex is alright? The issue some partners have is remaining in touch with an old flame or previous partner. Many people remain in touch with their ex as you shared so much with this person and you may have many common friends. While this is fine, it may not be for your current partner and sometimes this issue isn't raised for quite some time after [...]
Interview on NXFM about separated Dad's being kept away from their children by the mother We find many times where parents have split up and the mother keeps the children away from their father. Unless there is a legitimate or legal reason, no child should be kept away from their parent. This is a Family Law issue. The rights of the child is paramount and it is clear [...]
Wedding Guest List - Now that can be tricky!!! What is a Wedding - It is the life commitment ceremony between the bride and groom, shared with their family and friends. It is an event to unite all members of both families so they get to know each other. The wedding guest list can often be a struggle when trying to fit in all the people you want to attend [...]
Great article in regards to obesity epidemic written in daily mail UK. Only issue seems they have missed the whole point on the reason people eat as they do. It is not such a food issue as it is an emotional issue. Deal with the emotions, the weight comes off naturally. Have seen this thousands of time working with overweight and obese clients in my office. Make grazing on unhealthy [...]
Good read - Article asking Should I Use the 'Naughty Corner'. In a recent article for She'Said' by Nicole-Carrington-Sima on which I consulted discussing use of the 'Naughty Corner'. While I believe is the Naughty Corner should be renamed the Thinking Spot as we do at times need to separate the child from others or us if they have been aggressive or if we the parent have become extremely frustrate or angry [...]
It can - if you want it to The Family Law Act amendments in 2007 encouraged share care parenting arrangements between parents. In 2009 another amendment was made to discourage shared care arrangements if there was high conflict between the parents. So where do we stand with this now? The presumption was that children would get to share their parents time and their home would remain similar to that prior [...]
Why Do Mums Strive to be Perfect? The perfect parent doesn't exist and women should stop aspiring for this unattainable ideal. Recent article in She'Said' by Nicole Carrington-Sima “For a very long time now I’ve been saying to young women: ‘You can have it all, but not all at the same time.’ How important it is to take very good care of yourself, of your mental and physical and spiritual wellbeing; [...]
WHY YOU SHOULD SAY NO TO GIFT REGISTRIES FOR KIDS' PARTIES? BY Nicole Carrington-Sima Do you get annoyed by super-expensive wedding gift registries? Especially when you’ve left it to the last minute, and all that’s left is a $500 cutlery set? Brace yourself, poor beleaguered parents – gift registries for Kids parties are an increasingly popular new trend both in Australia and overseas. Many upmarket small children’s toy and clothing stores and [...]
Our Children are Growing Fatter... Who is responsible for our overweight children? We all know and recognise that many of our children are becoming fatter. We know the health problems this causes and the issues in regards to bullying and self-esteem problems our children suffer as a result. In Australia, one in five children are either overweight or obese. From 1985 to 1995 the number of overweight 7–15 year olds [...]
Research shows the first year of wedded bliss is the most challenging and it all comes down to financial stress. Simply put - Financial transparency is essential for a happy relationship. A joint study by Deakin University's Australian Centre for Quality of Life and Australian Unity found those married for less than a year are the least happiest of all married couples. If couples can work through this difficult initial [...]
What's more important than the kids in any family? I do a lot of Couple Counselling due to a number of presenting issues and many communication problems. When I ask the couple who is the most important people in your family relationship, in other words, what's more important than the kids? The common answer I receive is either ‘the kids’ , sometimes I also get ‘us and the kids’. The [...]
